Dating Like Never Before

Have you ever heard of speed dating? You go to a bar and you have 3-minute dates with a bunch of different people. Hopefully by the end of the night you find someone interesting. Hopefully is the operative word I imagine.

Now I'm guessing this works better for women than it does for me, because women know within about the first minute of meeting a man, whether or not she's attracted to him and if she'd sleep with him.

1. Of course we notice appearance first, what you're wearing, shoes are important, your hairstyle, etc.

2. Subconsciously, women will register your smell. However, if a woman takes birth control, this will hinder her brain's ability to correctly register your smell. This could be bad in the long run, but it may work to your advantage at first.

3. If you can hold a conversation, without coming off as stupid, sleazy, or cocky, then you might just be good enough. You score extra points for being funny, paying attention, and having manners. While you are talking we will notice and analyze your body language and eye contact.

If you've made it this far, you may notice a few signals: she touches you, she touches her hair, she plays with her jewelry (especially necklace), she draws attention to her lips, she may look at you with smiling eyes...

Don't get too comfortable though. It's only 3 minutes and there are more men she'll be seeing. But she has safely planted you into one category, where you will most likely stay.

I do realize men know whether they are attracted to the woman and if they'd like to sleep with her as well, but quite honestly, you are more apt to change your mind given certain changes in the situation. It's true. Don't even try to deny it. So what's key for the man in those 3 minutes are:

1. She's attractive.

2. You think she might have sex with you.

I'd say intelligence, but plenty of men don't care how dumb she is, as long as they get some. I would take attractive off the list too, but sometimes it's just a matter of alcohol level to determine attractiveness. So it stays.

Now here's what I was thinking would really mix up the night, people not interested in dating, but trying to sell something. What a great market. You have someone's attention for 3 minutes. That's a lot of individual advertising time. Instead of selling yourself, you sell a product, an idea, whatever you like.

Men you could make a killing selling cosmetics. Think about it like this:

"Hi, I'm Sally!"

Hi Sally, I'm Bob.

"Nice to meet you Bob. So, what do you do?"

I'm glad you asked, Sally. I sell cosmetics. Now you look like a Spring type to me. You would look lovely in these shades of pinks. And I have here an eyeliner that would really accentuate your already beautiful eyes.


I'm telling you, you'd make a killing, AND you might even get a date out of it.