WANT two
Following the post below "I want...", may a suggest a note of caution?
Wanting one all-consuming love to fulfill your entire life is fucking mad.
There is no-one in the whole world who can do this for you. Give up looking. Now. Find someone you like, be their friend and take it from there. Maybe you'll end up loving each other. Then find another friend to fill in the gaps and dont stop looking for other people to connect with.
"I want ... to live for ever" would make as much sense.
Love is fleeting and often unbidden. Handle with care and it may not embed 6 inch nails in your head. You may be able to get far enough away to control the explosion.
Wanting one all-consuming love to fulfill your entire life is fucking mad.
There is no-one in the whole world who can do this for you. Give up looking. Now. Find someone you like, be their friend and take it from there. Maybe you'll end up loving each other. Then find another friend to fill in the gaps and dont stop looking for other people to connect with.
"I want ... to live for ever" would make as much sense.
Love is fleeting and often unbidden. Handle with care and it may not embed 6 inch nails in your head. You may be able to get far enough away to control the explosion.
posted by Anonymous | 4:44 am
A friend of mine might call "I Want..." female porn; a fantasy that no man could ever acheive, like romance novels and "chic-flics." I understand and accept his theory to a point. I think the reason we (men and women) have our fantasies, is a longing put in us to be close to our maker, and this relationship cannot be fulfilled in another person.
There are men out there waiting for the girls that think of "I want" as porn. Unfortunately, those men constitute approx. 0.01% of all men and 99.99% of women's porn is money/sex appeal/omg he's famous.
Result: Slappers, bastards and misery.
That "I Want" kind of love does exist but is less in supply and very difficult to find.
The question is should people keep searching for it and on the way accept their hearts being stabbed into violently or accept the solution Cell mate offered and grow to love someone they like and trust?
So that's what I've been doing wrong. I keep getting caught in the explosions. Stupid love nail bombs.
"If you could hold this kind of love absolutely steady for say twenty years, then I'd have to own up I am wrong. I'd give it 20 days max." (from here)
The 20 days max. argument is compelling, and sometimes I believe it's true. But I've loved people that completely for much longer than that. Lovelorn Swain's blog has been recounting that sort of love for years. The trick is to find it requited, symmetrically & attainably; and that's what so hard to find and that's why argh.
May I comment on this, since the discussion seems to have veered in my direction? I've put something up on LLS
CM: So you're saying that the type of love Daleth describes in her post, can only be maintained if it's unrequited?
Hrm.
As for your second paragraph - I'm not *entirely* sure what people that have fallen into LIAC love (read: love) are supposed to do, then... Flick the switch? You make it sound like a choice.
Your whole comment is bizarre, in fact.