Lessons Learned

Most points are written from a first person point-of-view, because this list is more-or-less something I composed for myself and then decided to share.

MARRIED MEN

• Never begin a relationship with a married man that goes beyond casual fuck buddies. No matter how deep a connection I have with him or how much love we share, we can never be a “normal” couple that goes out together; he can never meet my mom and I can never meet his family. In short, we can only contain the emotional and physical connections between our minds and bodies when we are together, in one room, typically while in bed—when we part, the connection is temporarily broken as we resume our separate lives.


• He is only mine when we are together. The rest of the time, he belongs to his wife.


• Accept that he will complain about his wife and grown son. Embrace the steam he releases in front of me, and feel satisfied that I do not perform all the wrongdoings that his wife does.


• He cannot stay the night, so get use to waking up next to the cold space his body occupied only hours before.


• Calling his home is strictly forbidden, though not because he tells me so, but because I already know better.


• The minute I forfeited my dating freedom I longed for emancipation.


• Do not stop dating outside the relationship with Mr. Married Man.



• It is important that one refrain from making him one’s entire world, for one is his oasis only. His world is composed of his family and the life he built long before one came around. (Lesson still in progress.)


• When the relationship is over, he will still have someone to love while I will be forced to start all over. Weeding out the duds to find someone else who will love me half as well as the Married Man is what scares me the most.


• It took two years for us to reach the emotional attachment we now have, and to think of trying again seems like a task that will take a century to complete.

INTERNET FREAKS

• First and foremost, any guy met via the internet is long for one thing and one thing only—pussy. (Or cock, depending on the sexual preference of the guy.) Consider yourself forewarned.


• Do not agree to meet a male from the internet if sex is not part of the predetermined plan.


• Being offended by the presumption on his part that pussy is a stipulation of the deal to “hang out” is strictly prohibited. Consult the two previous points in an explanation is needed.


• As an inactive member of Literotica and the owner of an inactive sex blog, it is not surprising that guys contact me under the disguise of being a fan of my writing, and then hint at their willingness to meet up for a quick fuck. As flattering (and predictable) as that is, I never forget this golden rule: internet guys surfing for sex want sex only. They do not want to engage in small talk or become friends, nor do they want the temporary union to bloom into something more, like romantic love. Do not be fooled into thinking otherwise.

GUYS AND SEX

• Never mention to a person of the male gender that anal sex is fun and enjoyable unless he is a male whose cock you want buried deep in your ass. Otherwise, he will grovel at your feet in an unbecoming way, pleading to fuck your ass.


• Condoms are mandatory. Always. Even for anal sex, no matter how much he complains.


• If he will not eat pussy, he is not worth the effort.


• Not all men (young and old) understand the need for foreplay, nor do all men know how to engage effectively in foreplay. If I am not excited by the pre-sex activities (or lack thereof), then I kindly suggest or demonstrate other things we might try. Never be afraid of vocalizing any particular need or desire to your partner.
  

This list is still in progress. Check back later, as I am bound to add other points once I get the chance to jot them down.