Trust is earned, not automatically granted

Trust is a very difficult issue. Personally, when I'm in love, I don't cheat. Hell, I didn't even cheat when I was thoroughly bored and trying to leave on a weekly basis. It's not my style. If I'm at risk of jumping into someone else's bed, I'd rather end the relationship I'm in before I start doing that, because to me that's a surefire sign of the end.

I know that it's not always so easy. I've been there too, and I don't claim to have all the answers. It's a very personal thing. Different people have different ideas about infidelity. I know that if I'm even tempted to cheat, I'm not in the right relationship. Fact.

It's a subject I've got very strong views on. My first relationship was wraught with mistrust, jealousy, suspicion and infidelity on both sides. It nearly destroyed me, but it didn't. Instead, it taught me a great deal.

I believe that both trust and monogamy are absolutely key in a relationship that's worth conducting. That's not to say that you can't doubt the person you're with. You have to be on the ball. If you don't care, then you don't care enough. And you've always got to have your eyes open.

I think that infidelity destroys trust. I don't agree that 'trust is more important than monogamy'. Trust has to be earned, it is not automatic, nor is it everybody's right to be trusted without good reason.

My advice? Don't trust anyone as far as you can throw them, unless you're sure that they deserve your trust.